Therefore the child searchs any type of affection, exactly that he is one covers, a poke of ear, is an affection. If it does not obtain one hugs for the good things that she made, it obtains one covers for the evil that made, thus it perceives that all time that it makes something wrong it has attention, it has affection. Dale Carnegie often addresses the matter in his writings. Ahead of all these behaviors we have the types of limits:> DECURRENT LIMIT OF THE AUTHORITARIAN EDUCATION: where the child obeys from fear of being punished, without reflexiva activity, being able to commit the same lack again. LIMIT DECORENTE OF THE OBEDIENCE FOR INTIMIDATION: it does not favor the change in the way to think, only ceceia the action. DECURRENT LIMIT OF THE THREAT OF WITHDRAWAL OF THE AFFECTION: the child obeys not to leave its sad parents, however she does not reorganize thinking. It does not learn to reason ahead of another similar fact. She learns yes, that at any time, she can lose the love of its parents.
THE ELUCIDATIVE LIMIT: that it is decurrent of the communication clarity and of reasoning, educates for the construction of the autonomy. also we have the styles of parents and its consequences. Many are the ones that dream in being perfect parents, and when the reality of whom they human being, and therefore falveis goes come to tona, if they frustram, charge of itself, are felt guilty. The people who are very demanding I obtain same suffer very throughout the life, therefore the situations they go appearing, since the life is of the order of the unexpected one. Challenges are taxes and are necessary humildade for, when making a mistake, to recognize the error and to search the change. As the saying goes popular, to make a mistake he is human. What it is not allowed is to remain in the error.